We often jump to conclusions based on our first impressions. This has been the cause of a lot of misunderstandings and quarrels. You may see your married friend with a young female passenger in his car one late night and you know that the passenger is not his wife. You immediately jump to conclusion that your friend is having an affair and immediately telephone his wife. Your boss reprimand you for something soon after you see your colleague going into your boss’ room and you immediately think that your colleague has been bad-mouthing you to your boss. These are very common occurrences and have often led to strained or jeopardised relationships.
What you see may not be what you think is going on. Before jumping into any conclusions, get your facts right. You will save yourself a lot of embarrassment, not to mention the damages that you may cause by your rash conclusions. Remember, THINGS MAY NOT BE WHAT THEY APPEAR TO BE!
Take a look at the images below ( this was from an email my son Les forwarded to me…thanks Les! )
Watch the images from your seat in front of your computer. What do you see? An angry man on the left and a calm-looking man on the right, isn’t that so?
Get up from your seat and move back about five or six feet. What do you see now? As if by magic, the man on the left is now the calm-looking one while the one on the right now becomes the angry man.
The above is an illustration that things are not always what they appear to be. Try to look at any situation from different angles before jumping into any conclusion. And in any relationship problems, try to understand the viewpoints of the aggrieved parties. Have empathy for others and don’t spread false rumours arising from your wrong conclusions. You will make better decisions that way. And you will find that people will respect and like you more. Isn’t that a better way to live your life?